The Woman's Mind.

Some of us at different times have experienced, or are in unhealthy relationships. Most times it is because of our greed. We are drawn to people for the wrong reasons, for only what we will get from them, allowing our love for material things and false comfort, enslave us. For instance most ladies get drawn to a person merely after accessing his physical appearance, when we see that a man seems to be doing well, works in a "rich" company, drives the latest brand of cars, wears expensive cologne, and boardroom crisp shirts, gold wrist watches and all of that, then we fall for his smooth talks easily than that "average" guy who have spent months trying to get our attention. It is okay to love him for who he is, but it is not okay to stick around when you find he has bad behaviours, just because of what he has. Of course people most times recognize people who look for what to gain from them, and they usually take advantage of it, especially if they are "th...

GAINING CONTROL OF YOU! A lot of us went through the stage of doubting our self worth, we looked down on our capabilities and strength, we never believed we were stronger or smarter, nor could be come out tops in class. We accepted that we can never amount to something great. This sort of thinking can be as a result of our surroundings, family history, certain events that occurred and have gotten the best of us, also it could be discouraging words being constantly reminded of your "weaknesses" by close family and friends. If you have not outgrown this feeling of insecurity, you need to know that having a feeling of self worthlessness, or assessing yourself far below excellence, will do you no good. It is in fact a lie you are telling yourself and this can stop you from using up your God given potentials. You are fearful and wonderfully made by Him, you are a heir of God, His child, God is mighty and you have his DNA. You are wired naturally to do mighty things, to ...

Dear God, We are African women, here in our society, they tell us our greatest achievement is to be married, without which we are not complete. They tell us the value of a woman is "her husband". Without that a woman is a disgrace and a loser, then they tell us we must do everything to stay married so as not to lose our "acquired value." They say it is a woman that "keeps" her home. Even when it involves her life and peace, they tell her not to be foolish to speak out. They tell her to pray when her husband stops loving her and camps with strange women, they tell her to add fasting, that her laziness in the altar of prayer is the cause of his behaviour. When he goes violent and beats her up, the society including your "son", her pastor tells her to add more prayer points and bear it all like a virtuous woman, it doesn't matter if she dies. No, she died a role model to all women a martyr of submission. The younger ladies are the worst...

A neighbour offered me a lift. I haven't spoken to him before, aside from normal "Nigerian greeting." Na so the guy asked me why, I do not come out to associate with my neighbours, I asked how, he said my mere greeting is not enough that I can go a step further to be asking them how is work? Etc. (Lol I wonder what they talk about, the ladies and gentlemen, all those evening they sit in that shop and I pass by I don't do idle sitting, or idle talking, or gossiping, I don't have time to waste. my surface friendliness should be enough, except we become friends, and I can count my friends, this is because I guard my peace of mind jealously). I asked if I don't associate why he offered a lift nah? He said he wanted me to see the benefit of associating with neighbours. When we were done talking he was surprised. Of course I had a lot to tell him "A paraphrased excerpt" You do not need a lot of friends in your life! You do not need to be popular...

No, you don't have to marry the governor, be the governor! People be like, "oh dear, you will marry a rich husband that will buy your parents cars and take them abroad", seriously? what happened to your hands, are you handicapped? you are not allergic to acquiring success and comfort, it is not gender sensitive. You have got all you need in you to be all you want to be in life. Or don't you want to be anything? Is it not your mate that is running the country and are Chairs of the Boards of different Banks? Abi you read banking, was it for decoration? You should be working now and sending money home, then planning to build a house for your parents, if they haven't got one. Or you think they spent so much on you for nothing? The world is moving fast,and will not wait for you, you should go on with the times, Stop giving up your precious time for unserious ventures. As a woman you are complete, you don't need any extra value, or any additional s...

Submission includes and admits a CHOICE to act lower than your normal level. To say "Wife submit!" recognizes a situation of two objects being at the same level, or one object being in a higher level than the other, which can be any of the two. Yes, you were created as such, (it could be mentally, physically, economically, socially etc.) Wives, what ever ways you are equal or stronger, DISREGARD IT IN YOUR DEALINGS WITH YOUR HUSBAND,(not colleagues, not school mates,not coworkers, not neighbours not those men inside commercial buses or airplane that are submission hungry) BUT, willingly reduce, and go lower than that level, as the HUSBAND OUGHT to be the lead and Head for peace to reign and it is an order from God. So that does not mean that women are automatically "UNDER" a man. It is a choice to submit, then we are to choose the men WORTHY of Submission. It is never those who thinks that it is their right and all AUTHORITY on earth belongs to them. It i...