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BUILDING WITH HIM FOR TOMORROW: DELAY GRATIFICATION!

Some of us at different times have experienced, or are in unhealthy relationships. Most times it is because of our greed. We are drawn to people for the wrong reasons, for only what we will get from them, allowing our love for material things and false comfort, enslave us. For instance most ladies get drawn to a person merely after accessing his physical appearance, when we see that a man seems to be doing well, works in a "rich" company, drives the latest brand of cars, wears expensive cologne, and boardroom crisp shirts, gold wrist watches and all of that, then we fall for his smooth talks easily than that "average" guy who have spent months trying to get our attention. It is okay to love him for who he is, but it is not okay to stick around when you find he has bad behaviours, just because of what he has. Of course people most times recognize people who look for what to gain from them, and they usually take advantage of it, especially if they are "that" kind of person. So he starts to remind you of how lucky you are to have him. He shows you hints of fellow girls chasing after him, he brags about his possession and all the "big plans" he has going, about the successes of his kins and kits. He cheats once in a while and feel it's nothing serious. You forgive him because you think he is doing you a favour and you are getting something out of it. He may go on to hurl insults at you and even hit you once in a while knowing you will not leave him because of the comfort he provides and the gifts he gets for you. Unfortunately, you agree to go deeper into the relationship thinking the luxury he gives will cover up for his bad treatments, but marriage and children changed nothing. You married a monster because of your greed and desire to get rich quick. To impress the society. Now you want out, To put an end to your self-induse misery. That guy you were looking down on as a "starter" is now living a peaceful and comfortable life with his wife he loves, respects, and treats like a queen and they have lovely children. ..The next time he says hi, think of the future you want for yourself.

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