The Woman's Mind.

Anger is a disastrous feeling when it is acted upon, a lot of people do not want to go through the hardwork of controlling their anger, and they let it loose and flare like burning fire. Something interesting about flaring anger is that it first burns the source and saps out joy and peace from that person, the display of anger may even cost the person some physical, and psychological damage. Think of a man who allows his anger control his actions and he, all of a sudden engages in a fist fight with a fellow man, and blows are exchanged. Injuries are gotten. Each is rushed to the hospital for medical treatment, one stitches to another, all as a result of uncontrolled anger. Some people go around telling whoever cares to listen that they have 'hot' temper, or that they usually get heated up, and angry easily. For these set of people, a little act, makes them react violently and voicing out the presence of this ugly behavior in them, is in a bid to denounce responsibility for ...

One of the ways to keep your peace as this month ends, is to be content with the material possessions you are fortunate to possess, while striving to acquire some more. Some people have the habit of living above their income, acquiring material things they cannot on their own, afford, going around borrowing money to buy things that is not a need to them. A person may want something but may not be in need of it, we are supposed to first have the basic things we cannot do without before we focus on a want, which may just be for our pleasure. Some ladies borrow money to buy accessories like jewelries, some to buy clothes, shoes or an unbelievably expensive weave for their hair, they could have substituted for another within their income. This is a serious issue to deal with, as the month ends today and most of us will be receiving money, one way or the other. A lot of people both men and women are already indebted and now they will have to pay their debtors and live with the little rem...

A separate Bank Account is best for married couples, though, even with separate accounts, there still should be a high level of transparency. Marriage is a partnership, love, respect and trust should be the constitution, amongst other things. When a man divorces his wife stating financial secrecy as a major ground, it is then a serious issue. His wife even built a house without his clue, he may have felt cheated and "duped". It depends though if he had been putting his resources in higher portion, for her and his children wellbeing. The woman agreed in court that she even started her husband's kind of business, amongst which was, giving out vehicle for hire purchase. However,her husband was not happy about that, I really do not know what was wrong with that. Bottom line is, couples should take their financial discussion and plans more seriously. Excerpts Court dissolves 17-year-old marriage over secret house built by wife. – A Lagos Island Customary Court on Wed...

Now that The Emir of Kano, Muhammad Sanusi, has publicly advocated for a ban on marriage of women below 18 years in Nigeria. This could be the drop of water that will make up an ocean. He stated on Tuesday,at a workshop organised by the Northern Islamic Forum in Kano that some of the negative effects of Child marriages are, reproductive health challenges, divorce, and the bad economic situation which give rise to having a lot of children without means of caring for them, and they result to terrorism and its like! We are glad for this public awareness by a man of his position, and he just helped reiterate the message in the movie, "Wives on Strike", where the wives said no to "Child Marriage"! READ the full story. http://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/top-news/204023-emir-sanusi-wants-nigeria-ban-child-brides-18-marriage.html

If you want to live a better, successful and fulfilling life, then you need Self Confidence. You need it to comfortably walk the streets of earth and to enjoy a more relaxed and happy life. Confidence is believing in your worth. Believing that you have a special value, of course so do everyone. However some people do not consciously know how important this is. You should have that 'knowing' that you too are supposed to be accorded the necessary respect due to a human being. Understand that you are unique, you also have a space on earth. When you do have this knowledge at your finger tip, little things wouldn't ruffle you, you would not let anyone make light of you. You would not give chance to any situation that reduces your self worth. You will stay away from people who do not understand what it is to give respect to themselves and the people around them. You see, the reasons why you need to have confidence in yourself are numerous. When people around you, see you ...

Imagine where a radio presenter askes listeners if they could nickname their baes with the names of fruit and a lady sents her own text saying, she would call her bae bitterleaf! ..That he is not making her happy! Lolz. Funny abi? It actually provokes a cause for deep thoughts, like, why will a person keep on staying in a relationship where they are not happy. For so long? For how long? Especially when you have seen that the situation is beyond redemption, you have seen that the reason why you are not comfortable and happy is the constant act of your partner, the person keeps making you sad repeatedly, you have even forgotten what happiness in a relationship looks like, you wouldn't even recognize it if it bit you on the behind. Then I think it's time to step out to inhale some fresh air, and leave all the negativity behind, all the bitterness and constant sadness. Do not worry, you will make it out alone, that person haven't always been there, keep an open mind and you...

It was in a church I asked this question, that, "Where a Man always beats his wife, hitting, slapping, blowing, kicking her and then she has been to the hospital severally because of broken ribs, bruises and several cut, and this beating keeps repeating itself, then one fateful day, he beats her, and she did not wake up again. She did not wake up FOREVER!!! Was there a point she should have left? Should we blame her for staying? The answer I got from a very respectable womens teacher and leader was that, those people involed are not Christians they are "unbelievers." She went ahead to say this, "that is why she advises young people to marry Christians. That me myself should be a Christian and marry a Christian. I tried to explain that even "Christians" have these issues too, and she insisted that where the couples are true Christians, they wouldn't have domestic violence issues. With the murmur of approval in the congregation, I am sure a good n...

Sometimes life can be very difficult, nothing seems to be working, everything is falling apart with your eyes wide open, and it is frustrating thinking about how helpless you are towards the situation, it's a worst feeling when the problems could be solved with money, and you have none, then you become desperate, searching frantically for a way out. This piece is about you who have found yourself in this situation and have decided to find a way out, which is a good decision, however it is you who have choosen to get into harmful ventures, no matter the not-so-good effect it will have on you on the long run, that I am particular about. You have decided to listened to nobody, because you think, they have no idea what you are going through and have no right to suggest or advice you in any way, but please do think again. There are so many people who have been more unlucky than you are, It could be that they didn't have a family capable of providing their basic needs, not even...

One of the ways to get to your Peak in Life is to follow your heart, and disregard discouraging words from people around you.One thing I learnt early in life is, A Discouraging word is a Discouraging word no matter who it is coming from, no matter how nice the source is, no matter how much the person means well. If you discourage me, I will know, and I will not give up just like you asked, especially without a fight. I will love you for your care, but I would Focus and Fight. The beautiful thing has always been that even the close friends who discouraged me one point in time have been the same loving people who come around to celebrate my Success. So they have learnt to leave me in peace, to go for the moon. People judge you by their own Limitations. This is an information you should take seriously, it will influence your decision on who to tell about the pictures of your "dreams", because some will not be able to see that picture, because they have shortsightedness, a ...

Marriage institution is not a charity organization. We should not get married out of pity, to pay a debt, or to make someone or some people happy. That will be a bad idea both for you and for the other person. Especially if you do not fancy that person to the extent of spending your life time with him. It may be because of a certain vital thing that you find not okay with him, whatever it is, it makes you feel uncomfortable or worried when you think about your lives together. You will do both of you a favour if you address the issue before going into something binding. This is because if you go ahead without taking care of whatever it is, you may despise your partner, and the little consideration you once felt, may even turn around to be "hate", right now you may be thinking that you will make him change, but how many of such true story confirming that a wife made her husband change have you heard from the source. You can only pray for your spouse, it is his choice to cha...

You see this life, do not let anyone deliberately hurt your feelings, no matter how much you feel they mean to you. Have you had friends in your life who take you for granted, who offend your sensibility, by hurting your sense of dignity and pride.Let go of them, no matter how hard it is, you got to end that relationship or whatever it is called. This is because such relationship is toxic to you, and it keeps harming and contaminating you day by day, and if you let it continue, what will be left, is a shadow of yourself. You might not take pride in yourself anymore, it may affect your self esteem, reducing it to all time low. You will just be left feeling worthless. Which is a dangerously suicidal state of mind. It may be that this person constantly lies to you, again and again, even on crucial issues, and you feel hurt over and over again, it could also be that all such person focuses and hints on are on all the things that are wrong with you, everything that makes you imperfect....

Be You! Be silly, be crazy, be arrogant, be bold, be wierd, be different, but the bottom line is, do not forget to be good and to be human. We cannot all be alike, it wouldn't be this interesting, it wouldn't be this colourful, nah, it wouldn't be. We cannot all be really smart, we cannot all be so hardworking, or very religious, or so serious or even that diligent. In the same vein we cannot all be fashionistas, or vain or silly, or playful or simple. No we can't all be the same, but we are all one thing, We are SPECIAL. I am SPECIAL, say it to your self, "you are special". I may not be very smart, or so intellectually sound, I may not be a good dancer, or a great singer. I may not be a motivational speaker, or a world leader, but I am special, I know I am special, for being a mother, for being a father , for being a daughter or a son, for being a husband, a wife , a brother or a sister for being a FRIEND, Gosh! how special can I get! I have love in me, ...

A man do not need to have pile of money stacked somewhere for you to look his way. A man who engages daily in a decent task to eke out a living should be respected, a man who pays his basic bills promptly should be given attention. He has shown a level of responsibility, and a responsible man is vital in a long term relationship. Do not be a lady that ignores the "down to earth" guys, who are toiling daily to earn resources for the demands of life, and give ears to those who you cannot guess the source of their flowing wealth. Most Ladies are searching for "false security", and they have a notions that a "rich" man, is the answer. A man who has already gotten all the comfort he needs for life, so that they will not lift a finger, or suffer any kind of discomfort in life ever again. When as a lady you are frantically hoping and praying and selecting, having your interest for only men who seem to have "made it" as some put it, you may fall i...

If you live, school, or you schooled in the East, you might have listened to that advert on Radio. (NGOZI!!!!!!!! Ó BIA RAw!!!!) Ngozi's teacher went to Ngozi's house to find out why Ngozi have not been coming to school, her mom told her teacher that Ngozi has Malaria,her teacher advised that mosquito net should be bought for Ngozi, the advert ended with Mama Ngozi saying WHEN MY HUSBAND COMES BACK WE WILL BUY. The first time I noticed the wrong in this, was the day I over heard my father sighing loudly, then he said, EVEN MOSQUITO NET. lolz. "My husband will bring money to "marry" me, my husband will pay for the Wedding Ceremony, he will buy my Wedding gown and all my Jewelries, he will order it online from Dubai, he will buy his suit too, he will give me money to buy ashebi materials to sell to my friends, my husband will buy our rings, He will bring money for the Wedding souvenir. HE WILL SEND ME AIRTIME TO CALL MY FRIENDS FOR OUR WEDDING. MY husband wi...

You needn't drain yourself impressing us at that point. Be warned don't fall a victim! If you are sure you have been found by the right person, and you have choosen to spend your life time with him, you can seal it up moderately, no need to spend outrageously to "show" yourself, or show us the status of your would be husband. We have all seen it all. All is Vanity, the main thing is, life inside the marriage, the kind and calibre of children you produce. Then you can do that heaven on earth party, and we will believe you! You do not need a lot of money to have a Wedding Ceremony. You do not need all the colours in the world. You do not need the most expensive Hall, tell that your friend that said you must pay to call a very expensive professional photographer and a state of the art makeup artists, she says you should use up your savings, tell her that you do not need that kind of celebration to impress people who do not really care about you. As for your family ...

Your friend loves you, and you know this fact, you expect your friend to do some stuffs for the sake of your "friendship" and your friend usually does, you do also for your friend. You expect your friend to go miles for you, to be there for you, to listen to your problems, your sadness without getting pissed, to listen to your success stories without being jealous, and that's exactly how you guys roll. In good or bad times, you have cried and laughed together, you have even talked to God together. You have journeyed through thick and thin together. You respect each other, you both know your boundaries towards one another, you know your likes and dislikes, your fears and pride. You know and respect one another's interest and passions. You have come to love yourselves,and you are both very comfortable with your imperfections and are living perfectly with them. NOW THINK ABOUT HIM OR HER YOU HAVE A FRIEND!!! This post is about people who are not your friends. Those ...

You go to the market to buy stuffs, when its time to bargain for what you wanna pay for, then, especially if the seller is a man, you will hear the seller starts saying.. "Ahn ahn as you fine like this? You dey "price"?. then I will ask him "Government dey dash fine girl money?" Will a "fine girl" not seek to get value for her money? Keke drivers and "Bike men" sabi use this line well well. "Na as you fine like this! You con dey price?" "how fine girl like you go dey price?". Abeg government dey dash fine girls land for Nigeria? I usually ask them. Several of the questioners will boldly go further to substantiate their claim by saying, "You wan tell me no man dey take care of you? My answer .."I am not married". And they will go further and be saying many many things. Ladies, hear this, "Fine" or not. You should go out and make money that you will spend! Refuse to go along with the "fine...