Anger is a disastrous feeling when it is acted upon, a lot of people do not want to go through the hardwork of controlling their anger, and they let it loose and flare like burning fire. Something interesting about flaring anger is that it first burns the source and saps out joy and peace from that person, the display of anger may even cost the person some physical, and psychological damage.
Think of a man who allows his anger control his actions and he, all of a sudden engages in a fist fight with a fellow man, and blows are exchanged. Injuries are gotten. Each is rushed to the hospital for medical treatment, one stitches to another, all as a result of uncontrolled anger.
Some people go around telling whoever cares to listen that they have 'hot' temper, or that they usually get heated up, and angry easily. For these set of people, a little act, makes them react violently and voicing out the presence of this ugly behavior in them, is in a bid to denounce responsibility for these actions and the resultant havoc they wreck.
It is never a justification that you have an ill temperament. It is not a pass or visa to act like an untamed animal. We are humans and we all have the innate ability to control ourselves, the bible said so in Proverb 25vs 28, "A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls."
Any sort of attack will successfully invade it, taking all its senses, because it decided not to exercise any form of resistance or build one. A person with ability to control his anger is adorable, he is the one who garners more respect. Some of us can remember the 2015 INEC boss Prof. Jega and Orubebe's scenario, the epic way the Professor managed that scene where he was bitterly accused on National TV, his comportment and articulated response was Epic! Unprecedented! even minding the fact that the other man's behaviour was spontaneous and the gravity of the accusation was enormous. Granted, there are not many people who cannot hold back that perfectly, I may not also, but we have to keep consciously learning and mastering the art of self control because we need it in our everyday life. I give it to those men who refuse to enter heated arguments with their wives, but instead withdraw and wait for temper to cool, not minding that most women could pull a man's string and glaringly "look for trouble" where there is none at the first instance. This show of self-control by men have saved a lot of marriages, there are also some women who I have been fortunate to come across whose husband had done bad, even so bad as to cheat on them, but these women had exercised control and ended up winning their marriages.
A lot of guys have died at the park because they are too heated up and decided to retaliate at once, maybe out of pride and they met their death. A lot of people are in the custody of our Security Agencies for killing or maiming an individual because of anger, some wives have been killed by their so called hot tempered husband, also husbands by their wives, children by their parents and wards. Some people shamelessly go ahead to destroy precious items they had bought with their money and calling anger to come and answer for them. This is sad.
Make a decision to manage situations, laugh about them instead, do not loose that relationship because of pride or display of anger.
Think of people you know who are always happy, who rarely get angry, even if they should be, who accept apologies freely and wave the ugly situations away, learn from them, from now forward speak to yourself, that you will live a happier life regardless of annoying circumstances and people, that you will cut them off instead of allowing them take your joy and peace of mind away. Do it.
Then you will see yourself loving everyday, loving more people, loving yourself and enjoying your life.
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