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WEDDING CEREMONY IS NOT MARRIAGE!

You needn't drain yourself impressing us at that point. Be warned don't fall a victim! If you are sure you have been found by the right person, and you have choosen to spend your life time with him, you can seal it up moderately, no need to spend outrageously to "show" yourself, or show us the status of your would be husband. We have all seen it all. All is Vanity, the main thing is, life inside the marriage, the kind and calibre of children you produce. Then you can do that heaven on earth party, and we will believe you! You do not need a lot of money to have a Wedding Ceremony. You do not need all the colours in the world. You do not need the most expensive Hall, tell that your friend that said you must pay to call a very expensive professional photographer and a state of the art makeup artists, she says you should use up your savings, tell her that you do not need that kind of celebration to impress people who do not really care about you. As for your family and true friends, they will be around anyways, and be truly happy for you. A Wedding ceremony, no matter how wonderfully packaged, is NOT the Marriage, its just a wrapper that unfolds the real thing, which is the life you and your spouse live as days go by. The main concern should be if such life is happy or sad. A lot of Ladies get depressed thinking about how to raise fund to match up the kind of wedding ceremony that their friends had. Budgeting incredibly high amount of money for both the Traditional Ceremony and then the White Wedding. So huge an amount that can take them to another wonderful level in both their lives. Little wonder we hear a lot of men complaining about the discouragingly high cost of Wedding Ceremony these days. This is because of our culture in Nigeria, the men are majorly involved in financing this occasion. Which by the way is a shallow way of thinking. A lady should also be fully financially involved in the preparation of "her" wedding. Why shouldn't she? My father once said, that those fanciful, vain, and flamboyantly displayed weddings done by some celebrities, a lot of such, do not stand the test of time. Though we do not wish them evil, and I am an inborn celebrity too, but we know a few. If you are aware that the budget you are planning to work with for your Wedding Ceremony is higher than what your income and that of your spouse is, you as a lady, can cut down the budget for your wedding, today, think about it. Buy moderately beautiful stuffs, go for the averagely cute locations, you can be creative with it all, by beautifying it with lesser amount of money than taking a place that you have to work for a full year to pay for.You may regret later.Do not be too desperate to impress, by incurring debt you have no realistic idea on how your new family, can pay back.Call yourself to order. In Nigeria today, a lot ladies have ignorant decided to copy every seemingly trending style, regardless of the fact that they cannot comfortably afford that kind of luxury. Let us learn to be ourselves. Let us be content to cut our coat according to our cloth. There is no true happiness in being vain and showy. It is unfair on you and an unnecessary burden to put on yourself.Do not try so hard to make others happy while you died in silence having stretched yourself so much, that you end up breaking down just to impress people who do not even love you, or care if you eat or not, or that you are happy or not. They do not even give an extra thought, if you live or not. Call yourself to order.

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