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IN SAYING ”I DO”, COUNT YOUR GAINS!

Marriage institution is not a charity organization. We should not get married out of pity, to pay a debt, or to make someone or some people happy. That will be a bad idea both for you and for the other person. Especially if you do not fancy that person to the extent of spending your life time with him. It may be because of a certain vital thing that you find not okay with him, whatever it is, it makes you feel uncomfortable or worried when you think about your lives together. You will do both of you a favour if you address the issue before going into something binding. This is because if you go ahead without taking care of whatever it is, you may despise your partner, and the little consideration you once felt, may even turn around to be "hate", right now you may be thinking that you will make him change, but how many of such true story confirming that a wife made her husband change have you heard from the source. You can only pray for your spouse, it is his choice to change, with the help of the holy spirit. YOU CAN NEVER CHANGE A MAN. He can only decide to change. So don't bank on it. In choosing the person you will spend your life with, you have to look out first for your own interest, this is to save both of you from future heartbreak, cos you cannot force the heart to like someone it doesn't, though we also have to be very rational and apply wisdom. You should know and understand what the other person will bring to the table, it could be experience, maturity, or a solid foundation. It need not be a fat bank account at this point. Let us go for people who have something valuable to offer and not just saying Yes, so that their feelings wouldn't be hurt. In making a choice of that magnitude, we are allowed to be selfish, to calculate our gains, real, sensible gains not vain ones.This is because we have only one time to choose right,we should not ignore bad signs but follow it up to a logically conclusion, this is because a lot of people who go through pains and troubles in their marriage saw signs they had ignored, they were too careless and too desperate to tackle them. No need to rush If you rush in, you will rush out.. Take one step at a time And if the issue is too big for you, DON'T try to carry it in. You may regret terribly. God will always give you a good ending story. Believe in him, Pray! Your happiness is important to HimMarriage institution is not a charity organization. We should not get married out of pity, to pay a debt, or to make someone or some people happy. That will be a bad idea both for you and for the other person. Especially if you do not fancy that person to the extent of spending your life time with him. It may be because of a certain vital thing that you find not okay with him, whatever it is, it makes you feel uncomfortable or worried when you think about your lives together. You will do both of you a favour if you address the issue before going into something binding. This is because if you go ahead without taking care of whatever it is, you may despise your partner, and the little consideration you once felt, may even turn around to be "hate", right now you may be thinking that you will make him change, but how many of such true story confirming that a wife made her husband change have you held from the source. You can only pray for your spouse, it is his choice to change, with the help of the holy spirit. YOU CAN NEVER CHANGE A MAN. He can only decide to change. So don't bank on it. In choosing the person you will spend your life with, you have to look out first for your own interest, this is to save both of you from future heartbreak, cos you cannot force the heart to like someone it doesn't, though we also have to be very rational and apply wisdom. You should know and understand what the other person will bring to the table, it could be experience, maturity, or a solid foundation. It need not be a fat bank account at this point. Let us go for people who have something valuable to offer and not just saying Yes, so that their feelings wouldn't be hurt. In making a choice of that magnitude, we are allowed to be selfish, to calculate our gains, real, sensible gains not vain ones.This is because we have only one time to choose right,we should not ignore bad signs but follow it up to a logically conclusion, this is because a lot of people who go through pains and troubles in their marriage saw signs they had ignored, they were too careless and too desperate to tackle it. No need to rush If you rush in, you will rush out.. Take one step at a time And if the issue is too big for you, DON'T try to carry it in. You may regret terribly. God will always give you a good ending story. Believe in Him, Pray! Your happiness is important to Him. Its better late than never. Choose wisely.

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