The Woman's Mind.

A lot of people have fashioned their life to suit the trend of the society, they always want to impress,and with the coming of social media, like Facebook, Instagram, Snap chat, etc, ladies are trying so hard to outshine in physical appearance and material stuffs. The society should not dictate the kind of phone you should own, so don't go around disturbing some man to buy a phone that you cannot afford in a year time. The society should not decide what quality of clothes you should put on or shoes, or hair or bags, be contented with what you have and work harder to get more. If you are lucky to find who buys for you, Cool, but in the event where you develop sleepless night thinking of hair and clothes and all the men you will tax,in order to buy them, then my dear, You are a slave to the society. Another category of Slaves of the society are the girls who are searching for "Mr Perfect". So that they will snap with them and upload it on Facebook, and Caption it ...

We all have dreams, that thing we want to become in few years, that place we want to be, we look forward to achieving different goals, in different sectors, it may be in Politics, in health, in Business, in Entertainment, in the Legal world, in the Armed forces, in the Educational sector, etc. In various aspects of life. Our dream can become reality if we work towards them. Here are 5 tips to make your dream a reality: 1. CREATE IT TWICE. You cannot feature in a future you have not pictured, you have to first create a mental image of that achievement and see it in your mind eyes before it can come to pass and become a reality. God in the Bible told Abraham, "As far as your eyes can see, I have given you!" Same for you. You can achieve whatever you imagine. You do not pay to imagine. So, EXPAND your imagination. what do you see? Do you see a prosperous and accomplished future, do you see you living your dreams? What does it look like? What do you see? 2.BELIEVE IT IS POS...

Where a male without the full consent of a woman, penetrates her.(Inserting his penis into her vagina. Rape is committed. It is a Crime in Nigeria that is punishable under the Law. It is agreeably also, a seriously wicked act. It is better to woo a woman and she willingly consents to doing this act, than forcing a lady into it, admist struggling and screaming. Though there are some ladies who come out to say their consent were not given which may not be true. Those ones should be exposed too. Young ladies who have just entered their puberty stage, (10 to 14years) more or less have been seen more to be victims of rape, though "every age"can be raped. I have also heard that guys too have been raped by females. I have heard and seen some young girls, who had however fallen into the hands of males who are physically stronger than them,and who successfully penetrate them with little or no effort. Some of these males unfortunately, are armed robbers who visited in the night and ...

It was around the year 2013, I worked in an organization. It was my second time working in a coperate organization. I just came and I had to get acquainted with the Company and I did by the help of a staff, called Agianpe Ashang! This Lady was in a subtle way the heart of that company, and when it came to its inner workings, she knew her way around almost everything, if I wasn't cleared about anything I got a perfect solution from her. She was a very hardworking staff, was always first to come before 8am, rarely misses work, always made sure work was done. I admired her, and I was shocked when Agianpe Ashang announced that she was moving to Abuja from Lagos, for a new Work she just got, that they sent her a mail, it was a more advanced Company where her pay will be more than double of her current salary. Plus other incentives, and that was the kind of work she wanted, As I was just a temporary staff, an intern, I was sure that the Management of the Company will miss her. We beca...

Nobody gets to be fulfilled and 'made' by being swayed by every idea, opinions and suggestions. It is people who have a Mind of their own that truly find fulfilment and stay happy with their life! Don't be a lady who cannot make a decision as regarding her life's affairs and see to it till the end, Be that lady who has developed an independent mind and trust her instinct and her judgment. Don't be afraid to have an opinion, no matter how silly, and simple, don't worry you will fine-tune it with time, 1st start by knowing what you believe in and not being afraid to say it. Don't bow to opinions only because they seem intimidating, and pressing, keep your voice alive, keep your dreams alive, keep your ideas alive, keep your beliefs alive, unless YOU find it is absolutely unreasonable, even at that, hold your head up high. "For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind."2Timothy1vs7 "So, my de...

No matter how holy we may want to appear, we all had a crush, once, even more, while growing up! You can deceive everyone but you cannot deceive yourself on this. "Crushing" is a natural feeling and its part of growing up, so don't be too hard on yourself, that alone does not take our "Holiness" away from us. Now let's travel down memory lane a bit.. A very interesting feeling for every girl, this I know. You know when you just see a guy and you feel this fleeting, head-spining, butterfly-in-your-tummy liking for him. You just like his face, or his mouth, or his lips, his built, or the way he talks, or the way he walks. Growing up, we had some guys who "bounces" while they walked, (please don't ask me to explain that.lol. we all know what it means I presume.) some girls really had likeness for a guy who walked in that manner. A lot of "crushing" then, was found more at Secondary Schools, and the Streets we lived. At church was als...

"SHE IS NOT YOUR WIFE SHE IS YOUR DAUGHTER "!!! Yes tell this to those "bad" men, those secret perverts , who come around your little girl or your niece etc, calling them "my wife". A lot of parents have left their daughters to the mercies of heartless men who have found the space to use these little "baby girls" as toys, for their sexual satisfaction. These uncles- blood uncles, neighborhood uncles have succeeded in manipulating these little girls in various forms, occasionally "touching" their sexual parts, like their budding breast, inserting their fingers into their "private part", kissing them continually and passionately, even having Sexual intercourse with them. Doing all these to a growing little girl who has not fully understood her feelings and have not agreed to explore them, is not only evil and from the pit of hell, it is also a Criminal Act that has a Penalty of years of imprisonment and therefore should be re...

News from TheGuardian. Women in corporate world, are encouraged to keep aiming higher, to gain opportunities to lead. Speakers at the event, organised by Women Directors’ Development Committee of the Institute of Directors Nigeria (IoD),at Lagos,on the 14th of April 2016.noted with dismay that women were the most under-utilised assets in the world, asking that they be given more opportunities to excel. We commend the current Chairpersons of these Boards, Access Bank, First Bank and GTBank, who are all women and we encourage more women to continue to work hard, and also make themselves available for leadership position. READ FULL STORY..http://m.guardian.ng/news/women-directors-say-gender-disparity-hurts-businesses/

Kudos to women who are members of the Armed forces. Shout out to women who Studied Engineering, holla to Women Artisans, hello to Female Rappers/Singers, hello to female Models, hi hi to Career ladies, I duff my hat for women direct or indirectly in Politics, Hello to ALL the Women making themselves relevant and honourably eking out a living. Its a Cute sight to see women who have broken away from the box that society had constructed for all women, especially in Africa. SOCIETY BE LIKE .. Stop talking too much, don't you know you are a woman? You should not laugh so loud, don't you know your are a woman, don't look so mean, don't frown, don't get angry so much, don't argue too much, don't complain, don't sit down there, you should know your are a woman! That's a whole lot of unreasonable LIMIT and "DON'Ts" for one person DON'T!!!!!!!!! we think? !!!! Isn't it best to allow a person express her feelings to a large extent ...

I was at my "Place" this weekend and had to go to our Local Market with mom, to my amazement, the woman selling meat turned to an investigating police officer,and started asking momsy questions like, "is she your daughter?, where is your house, have your daughter been living in this place, this woman went far as to ask me, onwe Onye ji gi aka?(are you engaged to be married?). And as we were going through the small market, some young ladies selling different goods were practically calling out to mom, asking "is this your daughter? And they kept asking out, "E nu go di?" (Are you married?) and kept saying, "answer na!" On getting home, I realized something about the whole scenario, I realized how young budding girls are rushed into marriage around this place, asking a young lady about her marital status is not in itself bad,but when it is made the focal point, there is then an inherent trouble with it, as these people put pressure on these young g...

You are unique,you are smart, its your right to be happy. Stop wishing to be like that friend of yours whose life seems perfect, who keeps up appearances, whose marriage looks made in heaven, whose career looks rosy,business looks flourishing, that one flaunting engagement ring, who "shows" to be touring round the world. Every body has their personal worries. Nobody's life is perfect. Love your life. Live your life. Serve God with the life he has given to you. Because one day Monkey go go market, He no go come back. Every darn thing you see is Vain, Dust. Nothingness. This is the conclusion of the whole matter, fear God and Keep His Commandments. Nobody knows when their "dawn will dusk".

On the Streets of Nigeria, around various States, a lot happens to a lady, especially the risk of being harassed by men. There are some uncultured men who don't see anything wrong with making uninvited or unwelcome physical contact with girls they find on the street, patting her butt, forcefully holding her hands, rubbing her arms, and all what not, Then if she complains, these men and their fellow men will try to mock her making it seem as if it is a normal practice to "toy" with the physical body parts of any lady who is not married, for their self satisfaction. Like the day I had the misfortune of being around a local Salestore where this particular man who looked really advanced in age kept coming around to tap the "backside" of a young Sales girl, and he kept laughing jokingly, while the lady in turn kept scolding him and speaking harshly to him, I guessed not harshly enough as he kept retuning to repeat this demeaning act! My dears, we must learn to p...

As time goes on, people get more happier, a lot of things that matter no longer do, things that had the power to make one worry, no longer do. Silly stuffs that had once made us felt embarrassed no longer do! I guess its cos we have been through a lot. Nothing's new anymore. Guys have come and gone, even those we thought will stay forever, our heart has been broken and re- broken, we have believed a lot of lies and we later realized we have been deceieved. Even our love had not been reciprocated, but thrown on our face. We have learnt the hard way that all those fairy tales we saw on TV remained on TV, we learnt that fairy tale isn't real life and those stories of the Princess in distress with her Prince Charming coming to her rescue was just an unreal fantasy. Life have shown us that everyone has to take up responsibility for herself.The world is not all pink, red and wine, It has other colours too, and those colours comes around once in a while and rubs off on us. This ...

The way Nigerians bargain for goods in the market,can be really wierd! Lolz especially ladies! A lady strolling through a market picks up an Item, (a red sandals) The conversation usually goes thus:- lady>"Madam how much?" Seller> "Na #3000 aunty" Lady>"No be #1500?" (Turning the red sandals around in a "disinterested" manner, while inwardly she has mentally calculated three of her gowns she will "rock" with the red sandals! Seller> "This sandle na the original, (bends sandal in a bow form, displaying its quality lolz), see am, you go use am for long time. Take am for #2800, Aunty, na #3000 dey dey sell this sandals. Lady> hmm, oya make I pay #2000, #2000 good for the Sandals :madam, #2000, good, make we leave am like that. Seller> aah aunty I know even see am buy for that price o, aunty make I just make you customer, aunty oya bring #2600, I don try. Lady> madam abeg I know get that kind money, (she ha...

"If any 'LADY' is not willing to work, neither let "her" eat ... 2Thessalonians 3vs 10 Growing up, I knew certain girls who found the art of getting financial gifts, gift of food item, and various sorts of physical gifts from guys as an accomplishment.They ignorantly felt the so called 'skill' of manipulating a man and carting away petty things was an enviable art that other girl needed to learn from them. They called it "eating Office" or something of that sort. In my ignorance, just as theirs, I admired them, and I felt I was lacking in this "vital" area, as these girls seemed to be gaining from this art of "officing" guys. I however had a not so good feeling about it then, I felt it was embrassing to make unnecessary demands from a guy at that stage of a girl's life, I just couldn't bring myself to "play" that sort of play, and I felt contended, and not in dire need of any extra change from any guy...

Growing up can be difficult, especially for those who grew up having some measure of parental care and considering the fact that growing up comes with personal responsibilities and we have to "think", "decide" and "act" for ourselves". For some of us... GRowing up is scary! We have to make very important decisions by ourselves, and deal with what comes out of it, if we are fortunate, and with our past training, experiences and goodluck, the output could be fruitful, however, sometimes, something might just go wrong and it will end up being a disaster. Now, we have to work harder and be more result oriented, we now have lesser, leisure times to "fool" around, fooling around could be really fun, and some of us eventually had the work done anyway cos there was just this adult in our lives who made sure we are redirected to the Work on grond. Now "its all woman for herself". We have to be focus to achieve anything worthwhile. The...

Come to a Level where you don't care about others opinion about your Appearance, more particularly, your physical "features". How will one so called guy, who obviously lacks home training and ignorantly prides himselves to be "OPEN" and "saying-it-as-it-is", come around and tell you in a rude manner, "you are too fat, you are too thin, or you are short, you have inappropriate boobs, or your skin is this or that." Then you see my sister going about feeling uncomfortable, starving herself, looking for who will tell her she has reduced. Whether in a relationship or not and there is this guy who keeps complaining about your size or looks, constantly, no amount of magic you as a lady will be able to perform to get the approval you are looking for from that person. It will be from one complain to another. Please, ladies be comfortable in your own skin, love your body, don't keep disturbing people with stupid constant questions like, "am...