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CRUSH!!!... LEAVING UNREASONABLE LOVING FOR CHILDREN

No matter how holy we may want to appear, we all had a crush, once, even more, while growing up! You can deceive everyone but you cannot deceive yourself on this. "Crushing" is a natural feeling and its part of growing up, so don't be too hard on yourself, that alone does not take our "Holiness" away from us. Now let's travel down memory lane a bit.. A very interesting feeling for every girl, this I know. You know when you just see a guy and you feel this fleeting, head-spining, butterfly-in-your-tummy liking for him. You just like his face, or his mouth, or his lips, his built, or the way he talks, or the way he walks. Growing up, we had some guys who "bounces" while they walked, (please don't ask me to explain that.lol. we all know what it means I presume.) some girls really had likeness for a guy who walked in that manner. A lot of "crushing" then, was found more at Secondary Schools, and the Streets we lived. At church was also another serious "crushing" center! Girls liking guys, guys liking girls. Looking back, I can't help but grin, na wa o! Girls could like guys for the most silly reasons. A friend of mine told me about how she had a crush on this particular guy then, the reason was, the guy could sing one of the reigning songs then, and he just knew how to sing it perfectly! So she really had this serious crush on him because of that! Funny enough, I had same experience, these two guys always sang in my class then at secondary school and so because of that, I liked one of them! I could also remember a guy I liked then in my primary school, the reason was , he used to "take the 1st position amongst everyone in class" always, he was really brilliant and popular, and I liked him! Then as we grew, we started liking guy for their looks and how they dressed. I knew some girls who had crush on guys then in class cos of the attractive way they looked, or their mannerisms, I did too.lolz. Even some were "liking" their Male teachers! then, some girls went to the extent of trying to make these guys notice them, by changing their walking step, unusually "curving" their body as they walked, at class then, some started answering more questions in class, some girl started reducing the length of their gowns and skirts in a bid to appear more attractive and get their secret crush attention. As we grew and became better exposed and more matured, things became a little bit easier, as adults, we now come up openly to express our feelings, in more clearer ways, though most times the bulk of the work is left to the guys, only few ladies actually open up to the guys on how they are feeling about them. The thing about merely Crushing on someone, is that it is generally borne out of what the eyes see, or the ears hear, it is merely infatuation, loving unreasonably, without understanding the true nature of who we are having such feelings for, which can be dangerous and maybe harmful to us. NOW, the real Love has these semblance, Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. ..Love never ends. 1Corinthians 13 vs 4-8. Jesus Christ attitude toward us, is the best example of how Loving should be, it should be Caring and Enduring, and not only the beauty we see, someone need not be good looking and perfect, to be loved by us, as that is an unreasonable foundation to build our love on, cos physical beauty fades, but "inner" beauty, does not. Granted that we are humans and therefore, are not perfect We however can keep reaching towards perfection. As grown ups now, we have a duty to put away childish characteristics such as crushing, for we have now acquired knowledge and have now fully understood the true face of Love. We should directly our action toward loving with reasons and leave unreasonable love for Children.

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