As a lady,have you ever felt bad because of some physical defect you seem to have? Or someone especially a guy, ever made you feel bad by constantly referring to these so called defect, like magnifying it?
It could be talks on how short you are, how dark your skin is, or how fair you are, maybe talks on how 'unsexy' your legs are, it might even be how 'badly tall' you look, for some of us, it may be, how 'small' your back side is, or the size of your boobs, you may just be told outrightly how 'ungood' you look. The list is endless, I could go on and on.
All these are sometimes said in the most 'annoying' of ways, and it ends up getting to us, we just find ourselves entering into our shells, getting uncomfortable with ourselves, thereby losing all sense of confidence.
So what is that thing that you don't like hearing people especially guys say concerning your looks, so that when it is said, you feel really uneasy, and you want to practically enter the ground, you may have even prayed, about it, and wish that it changed, or it goes away.
Some how it just stays with you. so you, keep holding your breath, praying that the next guy you meet doesn't bring it up again.
But let's think of it, would it not just be 'talking', and nothing more, after all you cannot stop people from talking, plus its only people who do not have the right measure of common sense, that speak about a person's 'perceived' defect in an insensitive way. Sometimes some girls are unfortunate to have these kind of guys in their life, who react insensitively to such shortcomings, they begin to give an impression to such lady that they are doing her a favour by being with her.
The most amazing thing is, some ladies actually fall for this tactics.
Anyone could talk all they want, after all talk is cheap, the good thing is, 1% of Your life consist of what happens to you, the remaining 99% is your response to it, plus there is this 'saying', that 'No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. So its the value that you place on such 'talks' that matters.
So laugh out loud when that person makes jest of that 'weakness' you feel uneasy about, plus take a time in your head and analyse it, salvage something good about it, bring out those good stuffs that connect to it.
Also, this may be another way of feeling confident, why not take a mental look at the person talking, notice what can pass as a 'defect' about that person, you may not condescend so low as to laugh about it, when you find such defect, you may just smile to yourself when he gets on your case, and not feel bad about yours anymore.
Another way out, is to 'say it out', yes, don't be shy, talk about it, if they are already talking about it, what's the essence of feeling shy, say it in your defence, say it to suit you, explain it in the sweetest of ways, when you are not scared to talk about it, you will find that, the topic, gradually sounds boring, and overrated.
Be proud of who you are, you are perfect all by yourself, you need no one to complete you. You should always feel that way. If you are in a relationship that you always feel inadequate about your looks, because of 'comments' made by the other party, work on it. You can let him see that you are not okay with those criticisms, and if you cannot control it, quietly let it go, with your head held high. Someone who will love 'all' of you will always show up.
Love yourself first, and others will come to love you, don't worry about how you look, or what is wrong with you, rather, thank God every day for how he made you. You are a perfect replica of Him. A perfect creature.
It could be talks on how short you are, how dark your skin is, or how fair you are, maybe talks on how 'unsexy' your legs are, it might even be how 'badly tall' you look, for some of us, it may be, how 'small' your back side is, or the size of your boobs, you may just be told outrightly how 'ungood' you look. The list is endless, I could go on and on.
All these are sometimes said in the most 'annoying' of ways, and it ends up getting to us, we just find ourselves entering into our shells, getting uncomfortable with ourselves, thereby losing all sense of confidence.
So what is that thing that you don't like hearing people especially guys say concerning your looks, so that when it is said, you feel really uneasy, and you want to practically enter the ground, you may have even prayed, about it, and wish that it changed, or it goes away.
Some how it just stays with you. so you, keep holding your breath, praying that the next guy you meet doesn't bring it up again.
But let's think of it, would it not just be 'talking', and nothing more, after all you cannot stop people from talking, plus its only people who do not have the right measure of common sense, that speak about a person's 'perceived' defect in an insensitive way. Sometimes some girls are unfortunate to have these kind of guys in their life, who react insensitively to such shortcomings, they begin to give an impression to such lady that they are doing her a favour by being with her.
The most amazing thing is, some ladies actually fall for this tactics.
Anyone could talk all they want, after all talk is cheap, the good thing is, 1% of Your life consist of what happens to you, the remaining 99% is your response to it, plus there is this 'saying', that 'No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. So its the value that you place on such 'talks' that matters.
So laugh out loud when that person makes jest of that 'weakness' you feel uneasy about, plus take a time in your head and analyse it, salvage something good about it, bring out those good stuffs that connect to it.
Also, this may be another way of feeling confident, why not take a mental look at the person talking, notice what can pass as a 'defect' about that person, you may not condescend so low as to laugh about it, when you find such defect, you may just smile to yourself when he gets on your case, and not feel bad about yours anymore.
Another way out, is to 'say it out', yes, don't be shy, talk about it, if they are already talking about it, what's the essence of feeling shy, say it in your defence, say it to suit you, explain it in the sweetest of ways, when you are not scared to talk about it, you will find that, the topic, gradually sounds boring, and overrated.
Be proud of who you are, you are perfect all by yourself, you need no one to complete you. You should always feel that way. If you are in a relationship that you always feel inadequate about your looks, because of 'comments' made by the other party, work on it. You can let him see that you are not okay with those criticisms, and if you cannot control it, quietly let it go, with your head held high. Someone who will love 'all' of you will always show up.
Love yourself first, and others will come to love you, don't worry about how you look, or what is wrong with you, rather, thank God every day for how he made you. You are a perfect replica of Him. A perfect creature.
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