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WHEN YOUR ARE TURNED DOWN!

We have on different occasions been turned down, for different reasons, by different people. Sometimes by people we cherish the most or by people we barely know but need a favour from. We have responded in different forms to these rejections, often times we feel really bad and worthless, or we get angry at or just hate the person that turned us down.
Now remember somebody that have turned you down, and think how you felt toward that person, or how you still feel.

Being turned down for what ever reason is not the end of the world. It is not even a big deal, except you think it is! 
Here are five (5) facts you need to know about being turned down.



1. BEING SAID 'NO' TO DOES NOT MEAN
THE PERSON IS BETTER THAN YOU ARE.

Some persons have said 'no' to you for different reasons, maybe you seek their assistance, and they declined for one reason or the other, However, do not feel that such person holds the key to you getting what you seek,and with that feeling, you may find help from another source. Do not conclude that as such individual does not help you, the issue is closed. There are one million and one sources you could still find help from.
In the case of a spouse calling off a relationship or a lady saying 'NO' to a proposal made by the opposite sex, it is not the end of the world, such gentleman could find a better spouse for himself, 'NO' said by a person to you, does not in any way mean that the person worth better than you do.



2. BEING SAID 'NO' TO, MAY BE A PUSH TO A BETTER 'YES'.

When we are turned down, it may be a Blessing in disguise to a better 'yes' ahead. We have once or twice in our lives been grateful for something we couldn't have, as we had for that singular purpose, obtained something better. A lot of men are grateful for the 'NO' they had been told, for the 'YES' that came afterwards. Being turned down may just be what you need at that moment, it may just be an unconscious push to a better 'YES' so do not feel down or depressed when you are turned down. Look around and get a better 'YES'.



3. POSITIVE RESPONSE WHEN TURNED DOWN SHOWS YOU HAVE GROWN UP!

When you develop a sudden hatred for a person only because he or she turned you down, it speaks volume of the kind of person you are. It shows how small your mind is. This is true because you should not hate a person for making a choice against you, think that the person may be protecting his or her own interest, which naturally may be the right thing to do, which you might do if you where in such person's shoes. 
Taking the rejection in good faith, not having any ill thought about the person shows that you are matured,and that you are ready to take on what life throws at you, not because you accept it with all your heart, but because you are fit to handle it, to check out other workable options.
So the next time you are turned down, say "yeah, thank you very much." As cool as you can. And mean it!



4. BEING TURNED DOWN MAY SERVE AS YOUR WAKE UP CALL!

Its funny how we deserve some 'NO' we get. We may not have worth a 'YES' so we get the appropriate 'NO'. 
It may be a nudge to get better, so as to deserve the 'YES' we seek, its may be a hint to develop ourselves, build more confidence, acquire more skills. When we get better we will then not only get a 'YES' it may then be a higher, finer, greater level of 'YES'. So see every 'No' as an opportunity to develop yourself for the greater 'YES' to come.



5. MAYBE SOMEONE JUST DID YOU A FAVOUR BY TURNING YOU DOWN!

Most things we seek, may not be in the list of what is right for us! We sometimes seek somethings that may do us more harm than good. We may regret having what we have desperately desired.
The amazing truth is, the person turning you down may have no idea of the favour that is been done for you, worst still, you may fight tooth and nail against being rejected, you may even pray as hard as you can, but you get turned down anyway. This may be one of the greatest good such person may ever do for you, by denying you, a thing you crave so badly, but may have ended up hurting you.



So the next time you hear a mild 'NO', Loud 'NO', or a Heartbreaking 'NO', KNOW that it is not for you to think all hope is lost, or how cruel such person is. It is for you to dust your feet and try again, or try something better!

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