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WHEN YOU HAVE BECOME HIS PUNCHING BAG. RUN!

It is no more news that we have some relationships where violence abound. In these relationship, the man hits the lady. Beats her blue and black. She is most times left with colours around her eyes, with it swollen and looking ugly for weeks.

Others have their arms and legs marked, backs, shoulders etc. It is funny how two people who claim they love each other end up that way, with one party, who is perceived to be stronger, subjecting the other to physical brutality. It is really scary.

We have heard stories, I have heard my share, I have even seen marks. I know a very young couple who have just concluded their divorce process, as a result of physical violence.
 
Some ladies as we speak, are still in a relationship where they are used as punching bags, their so called guy beat them 'stupid' every opportunity, every slight argument. I have heard also that there are some ladies who 'like' their guys beating them once in a while.

I imagine that, but I refuse to make sense of it. I honestly do not see why a sane person, will want to be physically mistreated, and loves the feeling. The feeling of pain, the feel of physical hurt to the body, the head, the eyes, her arms, sometimes, pain from the ribs, one day it may be miscarriage, we have heard of death too.

The point is, there is absolutely nothing in a relationship where a man beats a lady every time, no matter how much she gets from him.

I am sure we ladies prefer love, care. attention, gentleness, friendship and all those nice feelings that make us wake with a smile, though we may misbehave some times, there could be other ways for a man to make his point. We wouldn't like it when we are used as an instrument to express a man's frustration, or to deal with issues he has with his self esteem.

I know some guys who instead of hitting, slapping, punching, they walk out, keep mute, go away, do something else. No amount of wrong done to you by a woman could justify kicking and beating. Except that is the way you kick all your friends when you are outside arguing frantically about football. If some will not beat the hell outta you.

Relationships where one party beats, kicks, slaps, punches, pushes the other is a mere joke. A big danger Zone. Be it a 'relationship' as we know it, or marriage. It should be dissolved before someone dies.

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