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FIVE THINGS TO DO TO GET THROUGH HEART BREAK

Valentine is here again. While some persons are be busy celebrating with their loved ones, some others are busy hating on love😃. A lot of us, including yours truly have experienced betrayal and heartbreak. That's one feeling that no one deserves.

Here are five things to do to get through heartbreak.


1. DO NOT GO DOWN MEMORY LANE

Delete almost every memory of both of you. Delete the SMSes, call log, pictures, and whatever fills your head with memories of that person. It works like magic. You're not allowed to have anything that may bring back memories of both of you. I remember deleting all the pictures of us when it happened to me. It's hard I know this, but you have to help yourself and yes it's effective.

2. SEE THE PERSON FOR WHO HE OR SHE IS: AN IMPERFECT HUMAN

When you realise that he or she is human, you would not feel so confused about the whole situation and when you admit that humans can be imperfect just as the person had been, you will not waste your precious time hating on him or her. It's like a little child who spill a cup of milk. You wouldn't hold that against the little one harshly because a child will always do children things. A human filled with imperfection is prone to do imperfect things. That's why love is a risk. Don't get too mad about it. Let it go.

3. SEE YOURSELF AS ENOUGH

Do not for one minute think you're worthless, do not conceive it in your heart that you are not enough. You are a work in progress just like everyone else. It's not your fault that you are not his or her dream spouse. So do not take it hard on yourself. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. You are God's masterpiece. When God made you, he was showing off!!!

4. GAIN FROM THE LOSS

Get busy. Now you have extra free time away from the time use for getting lovey dovey. Now focus on you. Learn something new. Do your favourite things like going swimming, watching movies, playing games, visiting friends, travelling and maybe writing. Read a new book, definitely not romantic ones. Do not take yourself from frying pan to fire. Do thrillers and inspirational art, read biographies of many interesting people that have walked the earth. Download the application called 'Any book'. It contains lots of books.

4. TALK TO THOSE THAT CARE

Reach out to your genuine friends that love you. Tell them about what happened to you. One or two persons. You have to tell someone. I used to feel I could handle it all alone. I recently saw the benefits of talking to someone. It will normalize your mind, make you realize that you are not going insane. That you are perfectly fine. Be careful not to allow anyone you tell take advantage of the situation and of you.

5. GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO HEAL.

Lastly, give yourself time to heal. Embarking on a rebound with someone new is the most irrational thing to do. When you have being betrayed don't look for an option B. It's not a good way to start up a relationship. Most relationships that started from rebounding end badly. This is because, you merely entered it as a backup plan. Outta convenience. It's mostly not the real deal for you.

You will be fine. Just hang in there. Use it all to get better, stronger, finer, wiser and experienced to help others.

Happy Valentine.🍷

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