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WHEN WE PROMISED, 'FOREVER'.

9 out of 10 relationships which involves young people always have promises of "forever"!, we could say it comes with the age, we get to hear words like; "we would get married; we would have cute babies; we would never grow tired of each other; we would grow old together, and the list goes on and on, until reality hits us on our back side.

Looking back at our lives then, we can't but shake our heads now, and marvel at our line of thoughts, how naïve we had been, how innocent!. Truly, we had hoped that life would be that way, like in fairy tales, where we live in Castle, and we are the 'princess', we meet our Mr. charming, we both fall in love, and we live happily ever after. However, in the real world, instead of 'happily ever after', we get disillusioned by love. The whole sweet feeling we felt at first, evaporates, leaving us with this 'icebox' where our heart used to be! In "Omarion's voice"..
Apart from being betrayed, there are a whole loads of reasons,we did not achieve 'forever'.
Thinking about it... what changed?



WE GOT TOO COMFORTABLE.

At the beginning. The chemistry was high, we had this waves, there were butterflies in our tummy when we got together. The sound of his voice had little vibes running down our spine. We could collaspe just waiting for his call, or when his line is unavailable,you respected each other, we even said 'good morning' once in a while. We cared what goes on in his life, we even wanted to know what his plans for life were, and how he was going by them. we felt this excitement when we thought of him. Sadly, Its not so anymore,we now 'see' his faults, we now feel he's no more that cute,he's not so interesting anymore, everything is just a routine now, we are bored. So we find ourselves acting up, nothing is a big deal anymore, we don't even know what we want out of the whole thing, we see it as 'taking our time'.We just take every thing for granted, then we fall out of love.

WE ARE NOW EXPERIENCED

We are no more 'miss innocence', our eyes are now opened, we have metamorphosized, we now know those 'little tricks' in a relationship, so we twist it to our advantage. we see it as a game we have become masters at. Its now something we play to win. we now leave our feelings out of it.
We have turned experts in the 'game of love'. we either flirt along, or we subtly ask for it, all this fills us with a false sense of maturity, we feel we can now direct the course of the game, and even predict the scores. So we just find ourselves straying.hmm.
WE MET SOMEONE ELSE

Someone came along, and we noticed something more we could get from this one. we just find this new one more adventurous, something more to explore, now we have a little more experience, so we can take advantage of the situation, we play it the best way it suit our needs, we can now play it as safe as possible. We could control the situation, tie every loose ends. we now don't have to give too much, we just give as a much as we get. The sad thing is, after a while, we miss those times when we loved with reckless abandon, with our eyes closed, with our heart in our mouth, we, holding our breath, when we comfortably put our eggs in one basket and we were excited about it!

WE GOT HEARTBROKEN!

Wow! this is one experience a lot of persons have gone through, and they looked back and wonder how they got out of the cruel feeling of betrayal. Its a saying that "we truly get heart broken, once".
We had been unlucky to fall into the wrong hands, he was just an outright liar, and the promise of 'forever' was for other purpose, or he met someone else, worst still, he fell out of love. whatever was the case, it does not change the hollow feeling in your chest, as if someone bore a hole right through it.

OUR TASTE CHANGE.

In the course of time, we noticed, we no more like those things we had once liked, now we like it from another direction, we cannot explain what went wrong, or maybe we just realized that we were carried away by the fact that someone can actually like us. Now we realize we worth more, that we deserve better, we wanna move on and explore, and realize the world all by ourselves!

DISTANCE!

This has been a killer of a lot of relationships. Some persons hate distance, when it comes to relationship, mostly they just grow apart, others cheat, others agree to break up,distance take away our 'forever'.


So have you figured out yet what changed? did you meet someone else? Or you got experienced, or your heart got broken? Maybe more than one of these happened? well, this is meant to make you recall those blissful moments, when love was all you got, when it was all you wanted, when it looked like you could give your live for it, you thought it was never gonna end, you could not even imagine it did end, anyway sometimes, we can't help to be thankful it did, life had to move on, its actually not that bad right now. Though sometimes we can't help wondering what it would have been like if it had lasted, but there is this saying that when one door closes another one opens. Now let us learn from our mistakes.

LIFE GOES ON, AND THERE IS STILL LOVE OUT THERE FOR US ALL.

OUR 'FOREVER' MAY JUST BE AROUND THE CORNER!

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