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HAVING A FAMILY, AND LOTS OF GENERATION AFTER, IS A BEAUTIFUL GOAL: SAY NO TO DIVORCE!

The Court said "you chased her away"?. The young well dressed man said, "I did not chase her away, she left on her own!" The sweet english accented young lady said "he chased me away". Court asked, "will you like to go back" and she said "No. You told me to think about it, and return, I have". This was the second divorce trial, I was unfortunate to witness today. The story is, these beautiful couple had live for nine years, had two kids, and have lived separately from each other since a year now. They seem to want it official. The court sent them home, said the lady must return with a relative,(those who drank and ate on her wedding day) that we aren't white people. The reasons that lead to divorce are unimaginable, but lemme focus on one. From the first couple today, and the one I witnessed last week, I perceived from their story that their families played major roles in starting off their quarrel. Both stories linked to parents visitation to their homes, especially when the wife delivered a baby, the mothers visit and never returns or stays for so long, then everything seemed to change.

I will not entirely think that having in-laws visit your home is a bad thing. Some have proven to be good and peaceful. However where a couple finds that things seem to be changing, the atmosphere seems to be getting hot with extended family members around, they should tackle the issue speedily. Most times family members come in the name of visiting and decide never to leave the husband and wife alone. How will an unmarried elder sister of a husband come and stay for a long time in her younger brother's house, with his wife and then also the husband's mother. The wife may not like the idea, it is not that she is wicked, but the picture she may have had in her head as to how her marriage would be was a home with her husband, herself and children, that's all. That is why is it important for unmarried people to talk about extended family interference with their marriage before time.

You have to understand your spouse before conceding to have your family members 'living' or visiting for so long. The man may be a person who likes his privacy and space, and wouldn't want to have "people' living with him that aren't so close, that does not make him a bad or unfriendly person. Some of us were brought up as loner, with less noise, less family, much peace and quietness, it makes us wierd, but not abnormal. We can even be more friendly and accommodating once in a while. I have this relative whose spouse do not like family members coming to stay long at their place, and it is not too hard to understand. It doesn't make them bad people. So understand your spouse, some woman could get alittle unfriendly, towards people who they have not truly known without being in control of it, if you have a wife like this, you try not to expose your family members to her and remind her, with love to behave herself. It is a lovely sight to see lovely and matured couples, who are ready to bend backwards to accommodate each other's faults, who are role models to their children and other couples around. We must say no to divorce, and discourage same. It affect in a lot of negative ways, the children, the families and the man and wife.

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